INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS: ARE THEY OK?

I have observed for a while now that interracial relationships seem to be the big advertisers on the internet. Ads encouraging you to visit various sites to meet your partner from another race and form an interracial relationship with them. You see it in comment sections, in your email, and yes on televison/tv. Are interracial relationships the new thing? And why is it now being so heavily promoted. I for one love to see people happy and I love all races irrespective of one’s colour or shade or where they are from. People are beautiful. And I treat people with respect and deal with them how they respond to me, colour has no basis. But it seems as if this seems to be the new exotic thing. And it tends to identify it being black and white.

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But the thing I am yet to see is a Black girl with an Indian guy on a poster, or a Pakistani guy. Or a Bangaldesh girl with a black guy. Why not a Chinese girl with a Latino male. And I know I am going to get a lot of comments saying I am confused and that I am mixing up the countries and the races of the various people.But my point is why do we never see people from these races mixing? Why does it have to be black and white? And why is it only given significance when there is a black person involved? Is it that we are still of the idea or thinking that the black race is an inferior one and for them to be paired with any other race is a blessing? It’s an upgrade and a miracle. We should be proud of him/her for accomplishing such a fete?

And I say or assume this because I have read the comments under these persons pictures and I sometimes wonder if you guys are giving a compliment or a congratulatory response.

And it goes for whites too. Only then is it given significance. This amazing gentleman or woman decided to marry someone of a different/lesser race. A true hero.

Are interracial relationships easy? No I don’t think they are. Because people will always have various opinions and beliefs and the truth is not every one will be understanding or accepting of interracial relationships as with a majority of things in the world. Not everyone is going to share the same opinion. Especially if these very opinionated persons are your family members. And to the ones who don’t care what people have to say kudos to you all. Because love has no colour or shade and what’s wrong with falling in love with somebody that has a different skin tone/ eye colour than you?

But I was just thinking that in a world where we are fighting for gay marriages and equality among gender and races we forget to fight for people. How many interracial couples have been mistreated or abused simply because they chose to love someone who didn’t quite share the same ancestors as they did or certain distinct physical characteristics ?

People applaud and congratulate but how many of you know that there are some parts of the world that these people can’t travel to , or certain places they can’t vacation to.That you can stay here but he/she has to go. That you might walk into a bar and/or hotel and not get through until your spouse who is racially accepted arrives. Or mistreated but just because your spouse is of the right shade they give you a pass. But some are also mistreated or verbally abused, given bad stares because they think well you chose less than your race. And these advertisements and television shows and newspaper articles give false hopes to young and naive girls who innocently just think its beautiful and it’s a Cinderella and the glass slipper story and in order to meet their Prince or to seem as something of worth you have to marry into a race deemed “higher”. It happens to men too but majority of the time it’s young girls and women.

Boys and men and i’m not bashing any race or religion but it’s the truth of Indian and Pakistani background who are arranged to be married they scoop these young vulnerable girls up with no intention of ever having a future with them and then they use them and practice with them until it’s time for them to get married or they are near that stage in their life where marriage is the next step. They take these gullible girls as sex practice,  arm candy. They have no intention of having a future with them and they don’t tell them they are arranged to be married. And everybody in their family is okay with it. Have fun. Until one of their sisters or cousins sleep with a white or black guy. Then they scream that their women are being taken advantaged of. They put significance on the virginity or purity of their women and how they have been corrupted. But women of other races don’t matter?   It has happened to girls in my high school, women at my University who cry their eyeballs out, some suicidal and end up mentally /emotionally unstable/scarred because the guy they have been with since high school for 8 years has decided its time to get married but not to her. Or they got married, she thought she had found her Prince and the guy moved back home brought his wife and children over and moved to a different state. This all in itself is a different topic but you get the idea. So i’m saying stop making interracial relationships seem like they are things young women or girls must have to be seen or heard in the world, an achievement for them to be moved up in the race bracket that you have made in your mind segregating races based on colour or physical characteristics/ ethic group. They have achieved something glorious in life if they do this and this is the guy the only guy that can bring you a glass slipper. Stop telling them a baby is only beautiful or cute if it has inherited their fathers blue eyes and straight hair, or  baby is only beautiful if its mixed with African genes.

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I get it white and black people make a fascinating story because of the past struggles both race have had with each other. Interracial relationships gives hope of a better world. Stop idolizing this as the new relationship trend. Well if you date him you’re not racist, well technically if you date her you have done a good deed, if you date him you are making him feel important.

We are people. Love has no restrictions and neither does one race or ethnic group. And no this hasn’t happened to me. Something doesn’t always have to happen to you for you to speak about it. And when it does then you wish you had said something.

PEOPLE ARE IMPORTANT. ALL PEOPLE. AND SO IS LOVE.

And if you want to marry or date or fall in love with a pink guy it’s okay.Children should know that it’s okay. But that they don’t have to be with that pink guy/girl to attain love or admiration.

And yes interracial relationships do give hope of a unified world and are equally beautiful.

What are your thoughts?

YOU HAVE TO GO FOR WHAT YOU WANT OR SOMEONE ELSE IS GOING T GET IT : STOP EXPECTING

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The problem with our society is that we expect somebody to hand us something , we expect ...

That's our problem we expect too damn much .While were sitting expecting somebody else is doing . We expect the world to revolve around us and when life kicks us we blame it on parents , we blame it on other people , we even go as far as blaming it on society . Because they didn't put these programs in place for youths , they aren't being put in the right environment .No they're over privileged . The right environment ? Are you growing plants or fungi .You train your child to make it whatever the environment .Life isn't always going to be cozy and then they grow up with this expecting mentality .They should be grown with what if this doesn't happen what else am i going to , not i expected this to happen by now and that didn't happen so that's it. 

I have been in a class where the environment is terrible , the teacher is awful and everybody in the class talking .This one girl sits quietly , she takes her notes , she goes home look up the curriculum , she aces the class . And when everybody else is complaining and whining , talking to parents and guidance counsellors , shes topping the class . 

Have ambition in life . If you think sex is the only thing life has to offer in life , then you have a poor vision of life .It's a part of life but it isn't all life has to offer . Widen your view . Even pornstars have a life besides just sex . Yes it is a major part of life but it isn't all it is to it . 

 There is a point when children shouldn't be cuddled , that you teach them life isn't always a bed time story . That dreams only come true if you make them happen .Even people who won the lottery had to buy a damn ticket .

So you got raped , shot , went bankrupt , abused . You expect me to sympathize with you and i do but after that i won't .You get that one free pass.  It isn't the end of the world . What are you going to do with that negative ?. Are you going to sit in your room and cry and hope the world goes by , kill yourself and it all ends. No it doesn't and your'e contributing to reason it doesn't end . Stop making today's society feel like the only negative they can face is a friend not talking to them , a bad comment on your post , a nasty remark .There are worse horrors out there and people are overcoming them . Making a positive . 

The government isn't doing this , the government hasn't done that .When was the last time you voted ? . If you want something go for it and stop expecting somebody to hand it to you . Be what you want , you have one life and its not going to be the same as everybody else's , but make it count .

They tell you to make a plan B , no make sure you 36 plans and that plan A works . Plan A has to work and when you have given a 100 percent and it hasn't , then you try again .Thomas Edison tried thousands of times they say before he invented the light bulb . 

Goes to show that sometimes we are the ones defeating ourselves . 

HAS SOCIAL MEDIA RUINED US ?

Since recently i have been thinking , has social media ruined us ? We might have reached that point in movies where machines have taken over and now its in the shape and form of social media and now its at our fingertips .
Every year these mobile companies come up with a new feature , modernisation they say , technological advancement .It makes life easier .But hasn't some of these 'new features' limited us . When was the last time you calculated something , without a fancy calculator , without the calculator app on your phone ?
Kids ask why should i learn to add , subtract , multiply , divide when a caalculator can do it for me ?
When the machines aren't nearby or the cash register break down and they are given an on spot simple Mathematic problem they are confused and lost .
But aren't they limiting themselves , not achieving there full potential .Textbooks are becoming a thing of old . But recent studies have shown that kids learn better and store information longer using textbooks .
Teens and people in general have found more purpose in life posting pictures and writing witty quotes than actual living .Giving a glimpse of a mere fraction of the reality of there lives to seem cool and popular . Social media has helped in spreading self doubt , lack of self worth and verbal abuse .
We broadcast every thing , showcase everything , we check it every night before we go to sleep , every morning we wake , in the middle of the night , during work ,  it is checked more than our children or dogs are  .
We have devoted so much time and energy into these things when things of greater importance are passing us by .
Instead of waiting for the next Kim Kardashian or Beyonce picture to drop why not read an article about what is happening in recent news on the ebola virus . What has happened in the Eastern part of the world , what is happening in your communities , your homes ?
When was the last time you spent time with your family .
 I agree we all have to take a break from the serious stuff . But sometimes we need to take a break from silly stuff . Women , men and children are being abused worldwide , bombs are going off . Girls are thinking that the only way to get attention is to show themselves  naked on the internet .
Males believe the only way they will be seen as tough is by getting tattoo .People are homeless , people are jobless , children are being sold into prostitution .Slavery has not ended it has just been hidden or renamed and all you would have done in your lives is tap away at your social media gadgets and play dumb to the world until it happens to you .
People get robbed for these gadgets , people die in car crashes every year using them and some end up on these social medias which some of you parents put them on without proper supervision and the predators come out . Sometimes they become too exposed . Sometimes we don't all know our children as we think we do . Somtimes we as adults become prey and fall victims to the predators .
     Sex sells and we have made a platform for it .We all say nothing is wrong with us appreciating each others bodies . It is your decision on what to do with your body .And every naked picture is called art.Have we lost all creativity or is this the only way our 'art ' can be displayed on social media to garner attention or have we lost meaning of the word 'art' .
    The government in Jamaica and other countries have made tablets accessible to students free of cost they say but at the end of the day you pay the tax so it should be yours .  I think it helps because in such a technological world  kids  need to be educated on how to use these devices in their future work environment .
But you can't give students tablets and not food .They say they have PATH programme in Jamaica which helps students whose parents can't help them but these children cannot get on such a programme .Yet children whose parents are teachers , clerks etc are on such pogrammes , who can afford to give to their children .
The education system needs to be revised , how can you be teaching children descriptive writing , story writing ad when they graduate from school they have no knowledge of how to write a job application .
Giving the children tablets is one step but they need jobs , proper learning environments , opportunities , a better economy not just false hope .
  We need to use social media for other things than vanity , what has happened to us ?
Are we not our brothers keeper ?

We all need to get our act together , this is our country , this is our world . Things only happen because we  'all ' allow them to .

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