INTERRACIAL RELATIONSHIPS: ARE THEY OK?

I have observed for a while now that interracial relationships seem to be the big advertisers on the internet. Ads encouraging you to visit various sites to meet your partner from another race and form an interracial relationship with them. You see it in comment sections, in your email, and yes on televison/tv. Are interracial relationships the new thing? And why is it now being so heavily promoted. I for one love to see people happy and I love all races irrespective of one’s colour or shade or where they are from. People are beautiful. And I treat people with respect and deal with them how they respond to me, colour has no basis. But it seems as if this seems to be the new exotic thing. And it tends to identify it being black and white.

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But the thing I am yet to see is a Black girl with an Indian guy on a poster, or a Pakistani guy. Or a Bangaldesh girl with a black guy. Why not a Chinese girl with a Latino male. And I know I am going to get a lot of comments saying I am confused and that I am mixing up the countries and the races of the various people.But my point is why do we never see people from these races mixing? Why does it have to be black and white? And why is it only given significance when there is a black person involved? Is it that we are still of the idea or thinking that the black race is an inferior one and for them to be paired with any other race is a blessing? It’s an upgrade and a miracle. We should be proud of him/her for accomplishing such a fete?

And I say or assume this because I have read the comments under these persons pictures and I sometimes wonder if you guys are giving a compliment or a congratulatory response.

And it goes for whites too. Only then is it given significance. This amazing gentleman or woman decided to marry someone of a different/lesser race. A true hero.

Are interracial relationships easy? No I don’t think they are. Because people will always have various opinions and beliefs and the truth is not every one will be understanding or accepting of interracial relationships as with a majority of things in the world. Not everyone is going to share the same opinion. Especially if these very opinionated persons are your family members. And to the ones who don’t care what people have to say kudos to you all. Because love has no colour or shade and what’s wrong with falling in love with somebody that has a different skin tone/ eye colour than you?

But I was just thinking that in a world where we are fighting for gay marriages and equality among gender and races we forget to fight for people. How many interracial couples have been mistreated or abused simply because they chose to love someone who didn’t quite share the same ancestors as they did or certain distinct physical characteristics ?

People applaud and congratulate but how many of you know that there are some parts of the world that these people can’t travel to , or certain places they can’t vacation to.That you can stay here but he/she has to go. That you might walk into a bar and/or hotel and not get through until your spouse who is racially accepted arrives. Or mistreated but just because your spouse is of the right shade they give you a pass. But some are also mistreated or verbally abused, given bad stares because they think well you chose less than your race. And these advertisements and television shows and newspaper articles give false hopes to young and naive girls who innocently just think its beautiful and it’s a Cinderella and the glass slipper story and in order to meet their Prince or to seem as something of worth you have to marry into a race deemed “higher”. It happens to men too but majority of the time it’s young girls and women.

Boys and men and i’m not bashing any race or religion but it’s the truth of Indian and Pakistani background who are arranged to be married they scoop these young vulnerable girls up with no intention of ever having a future with them and then they use them and practice with them until it’s time for them to get married or they are near that stage in their life where marriage is the next step. They take these gullible girls as sex practice,  arm candy. They have no intention of having a future with them and they don’t tell them they are arranged to be married. And everybody in their family is okay with it. Have fun. Until one of their sisters or cousins sleep with a white or black guy. Then they scream that their women are being taken advantaged of. They put significance on the virginity or purity of their women and how they have been corrupted. But women of other races don’t matter?   It has happened to girls in my high school, women at my University who cry their eyeballs out, some suicidal and end up mentally /emotionally unstable/scarred because the guy they have been with since high school for 8 years has decided its time to get married but not to her. Or they got married, she thought she had found her Prince and the guy moved back home brought his wife and children over and moved to a different state. This all in itself is a different topic but you get the idea. So i’m saying stop making interracial relationships seem like they are things young women or girls must have to be seen or heard in the world, an achievement for them to be moved up in the race bracket that you have made in your mind segregating races based on colour or physical characteristics/ ethic group. They have achieved something glorious in life if they do this and this is the guy the only guy that can bring you a glass slipper. Stop telling them a baby is only beautiful or cute if it has inherited their fathers blue eyes and straight hair, or  baby is only beautiful if its mixed with African genes.

NO.

I get it white and black people make a fascinating story because of the past struggles both race have had with each other. Interracial relationships gives hope of a better world. Stop idolizing this as the new relationship trend. Well if you date him you’re not racist, well technically if you date her you have done a good deed, if you date him you are making him feel important.

We are people. Love has no restrictions and neither does one race or ethnic group. And no this hasn’t happened to me. Something doesn’t always have to happen to you for you to speak about it. And when it does then you wish you had said something.

PEOPLE ARE IMPORTANT. ALL PEOPLE. AND SO IS LOVE.

And if you want to marry or date or fall in love with a pink guy it’s okay.Children should know that it’s okay. But that they don’t have to be with that pink guy/girl to attain love or admiration.

And yes interracial relationships do give hope of a unified world and are equally beautiful.

What are your thoughts?

COLOUR

They told me colour was what you saw when you looked at the light

That if you ever saw a rainbow, you’ve seen all the colours insight

I memorized them by crayons to coloured pencils and shades

Until one day I realized that people came in different shades

That love didn’t really have a colour

And neither did pain

That we have no power over how we were made

And we don’t get the opportunity to pick a shade

And as I lay here watching you think

It came to me that colour doesn’t always describe everything

The ones that I love represent something true

Like the blue of the ocean crashing upon your toes

The creamy blue softness of the of the sky

And when I was little I used to stretch out my tongue and try

To taste it even though it was so high

Freshly cut green grass, it’s smell floating through your veins

And not to mention golden sunsets

Dark nights and pouring summer rains

To soft hair and smooth skin

And wide dark eyes

Lips the colour of red roses

And sighs the colour of champagne

Because colours can be addicting

That’s why we most of us spend all our lives

Dying to identify every shade

Because how else  would we describe

Exclusivity and

The world in which we were made

ADDICTION : TO PEOPLE

Since Recently ,

I have realized that people are not only addicted to substances but also to people .Yes , people ! , you might not think this is not possible because you are wondering how does one get addicted to another person ? .Well just as how drugs give you a high , people tend to give people these same feelings , make them feel important , their self worth feels elevated by being with these persons , they’re emotionally dependent on these people to be happy .But is it healthy ? Is the relationship toxic ? Are you clingy or over possessive ?

In a list does the negative things you get from the relationship outweigh the positive ?

When was the last  time you had a meal by yourself ?

Or it might be a friend who you notice always wants to be with you even when it’s inconvenient , has a bad influence on you , or keeps getting you in serious trouble.

This person has hurt you in a number of ways but you still look at the positive ,to the periods in time when they made you feel good and like a junkie you’re waiting for another shot of self esteem or appreciation or love .Therefore they tend to use you .

How do you get over this addiction?

First determine if it’s an addiction , is this a recurring thing as in with past lovers or the types of friends you choose ?

Spend time with yourself ,  know yourself , enjoy your own company .Love yourself , set personal goals ,work on your weak spots , elevate your own self esteem and worth . Introduce positive people and things in your life .And no it won’t be easy but you’ll start feeling the positive changes around you .

WHAT ?

I go away a lot.

Just in my mind .

People always give me these weird looks .

But I always retreat to that period in time   .

It’s much better there , you should come with me sometimes ?

I promise you it’s almost like heaven , if you ever had an idea of what heaven is like .

So all the time people tell me to come back home .

But I don’t want to , here it’s too cold .

Sometimes I’m just thinking .

They say what have I got to think so much about?

You wouldn’t believe or understand because most of them are night mares compared to your resplendent dreams .

by M.S.P.

Since Recently I have been reading poems and this is from an author and poet whose work I am in love with .

Would you like to read more of her work ?